I don’t want to make a habit of reproducing the articles I write for Examiner.com in this blog, but I thought this one was appropriate.
Yesterday this writer fielded phone calls and emails from friends and family who wanted to offer her comfort on the second anniversary of her husband’s death. While she was touched by their thoughtfulness, she let them know that yesterday wasn’t any different from any of the 730 days that came before; she grieved his loss on each of them.
Oddly, this writer spent most of the day thinking about how fortunate she was to have a husband whose loss is worth two years of mourning and likely many more.
Some call cancer an evil, an affliction put here by Satan, who wants God’s children to suffer because he knows that our suffering pains God. Others say we brought cancer on ourselves when Adam and Eve disobeyed God and the human race fell from God’s grace. Those who are most likely to read this column tend to point out that God either has the ability to eliminate evil and won’t (making him evil himself) or cannot eliminate evil (making him not God-like). They see cancer as evidence that there is no deity because a deity could and would eliminate evil.
The world is certainly full of bad things; cancer is only one. What this writer knows is that no deity decided that her husband should develop cancer and no deity could take his cancer away. Cancer just happens to a certain number of people; some die. This writer’s husband, like all of us, was not so special that he could avoid being part of that grim lottery.
For every good thing, there must be a bad thing. This is a concept frequently discussed by philosophers, but no one who lives in this world can doubt that this is true. How can we appreciate a warm, sunny day if there were not cold, rainy days? How can we be grateful for a good night’s sleep if we didn’t occasionally experience insomnia? How can we know how rare and wonderful it is to find the other halves of ourselves if we didn’t realize how easily we can lose them to crime, accident or illness?
This writer prefers not to use the word evil because it’s a religious term; she prefers to talk about bad things. Yes, the world is full of them, but rather than wish we could eliminate them, we should be grateful for them. If not for the bad things, we not only couldn’t appreciate the good things, we wouldn’t even know they were good things.
The message for those who like to ponder the “problem of evil” is this: It’s not evidence that there is no deity, for if there is a deity, then bad things are a gift that deity has given to the world so that we can know what the good things are. However, bad things aren’t evidence that there must be a deity either, because they can be adequately explained and understood as an integral part of life–no deity required.
As to the myth of Adam and Eve and what happened when they ate the forbidden fruit, this writer will let others have the fun of arguing about that. Tomorrow she’s got to get on with the business of learning to live without her other half.